The Bachelor and Other Shows Contributing to the Delinquency of a Woman

It is amazing to me that women still want to be on The Bachelor when you consider their record.  The Bachelor has been on for 17 seasons and there have been two marriages.   Women who go on The Bachelor hope a man they do not know, is going to pick them from 25 women he doesn’t know, while the women cut each other to shreds to show the man how much they care and the man makes out with all the women he can.  All of this is happening while the man and the women try to convince us that they will form a relationship with each other, strong enough, to get married in 13 weeks, only spending hours with each other.  It is one of the most degrading shows for women on television.  It doesn’t even make me mad, I am just sad that this is what we have come to.

The Bachelor is not the only show that contributes to this mess.  There is The Bachelorette, Flavor of Love, all the Real Housewives shows, Love and Hip-Hop, Basketball Wives, 16 and Pregnant, Bad Girls Club, Making Mr. Right, Dance Moms, Jersey Shore, Keeping up with the Kardashians, Teen Mom, Toddlers and Tiaras and so many more.  Reality programs are probably the biggest offenders, but they are not the only ones.  There are a few non-reality shows that are doing the same thing: Sex and the City, The Good Wife, Mistresses and Soap Operas.

There are reality and non-reality programs that try to portray women in a positive light, but I should be able to channel surf without seeing on every third channel: a woman with her butt out, a woman who is screaming at another woman or a woman who is fighting with another woman.  No more pregnant teens glamorized on TV.  We should not accept a program where a woman has sex with someone’s husband, but then condemn the real thing.  No more of our sisters portrayed on TV as crazy, loud, insecure, ignorant, desperate, violent, greedy, selfish, compliant women who will sleep with someone to get what they want.  These are the images that our daughters, sisters, nieces and cousins are seeing even if we try to counter those images by talking to young girls and women.  When the negative images of women dominate reality programming and reality programming dominates television it is hard to counter those images

When these images and concepts of women permeate our conscious and sub-conscious it begins to tear us down.  We start to believe the lies they tell us and begin to live the life they depict on television.  We start to believe the only way to get ahead is with our bodies, we start to believe that our voice does not need to be heard, we start to believe that we are not good enough and we start to believe that only ‘I’ matter and not ‘we’.

This representation of women is not only the fault of television and other media.  We, as women, have to take some responsibility.  We are responsible for how the representation makes us think about ourselves, we are responsible for contributing to the continuation of this representation by television (I am guilty of this myself) and we are responsible for being the ones to say No More.  It is not easy to look away from a train wreck, but I would hope that if you saw someone struggling, you would at the least call the police and at the most, go over and help pull them out.

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